Waking up hoping that calmer heads prevail today. I can’t not say what’s on my mind, so here goes…
The allegations surfaced. People were mortified. A response was requested. People were not satisfied. Either its too much, too little, the wrong people talking, its not what people want to hear….it just didn’t matter. Some (not all) were looking for the one thing that they wanted to hear and if they didn’t hear it, well dang it…they’re still not saying it right.
These are real people. Real people with real lives going through an incredibly real time that we are just seeing from outside the fishbowl. My heart goes out to all of them. This is an incredible amount to go through and is made that much more complicated by having to address public perception every inch of the way. At the end of the day though, who is really most affected by this? Its not us. Its them.
I also can’t help but say one more thing. Be careful what you wish for. There is a very damaged soul in all of this that was in a very dark place before the allegations came out. Does this mean we need to just look the other way? No, of course not. Do we need some assurance that he will not be in a position of power again? Absolutely! Do we need to wish for complete and utter financial ruin for him? I hope not. I haven’t lost my empathy chip quite yet and while I wish for justice, I do not need to see heads roll.
If we are asking people to be better, we need to start doing the same thing ourselves. This whole maelstrom, the case, the settlements are certainly serving. Let this play out. Be patient. More answers are coming. We just simply can’t hear what even those involved don’t know yet.
I am realizing that I am just one person outside the fishbowl that feels like they can make a difference. I may completely fail here. I’m okay with that. This isn’t about me. I wish healing for all. I just don’t want any more damage to anyone as a result of this.
This is my plea for calmer heads to prevail today. I meant what I said in a thread a few days back, which now seems like years ago. The only thing that can destroy a community is the community itself. I am just asking for some reflection today on how much more destruction we need to make ourselves feel better in this.
To the team members (and the community too)—Love you all and hoping every day brings more healing