Random thoughts:
- A wedding shower and a bridal shower are the same thing. No matter what you call it, a shower can have "a theme" such as lingerie, hardware, etc. If no theme is designated, general household goods -- kitchen, linens, etc. are expected.
- Here in the South, we occasionally see a "Pounding Shower", though it's old-fashioned. It's a shower for a large group where people want to do something small for the bride -- each participant gives a pound of something for the bride's pantry: spices, flour, noodles, even canned goods. A Sunday school class or a Girl Scout troop might have a "Pounding" for its teacher or leader -- it's not typically a big party like a shower.
- Some people would be uncomfortable giving lingerie (or attending a lingerie shower), so if you give that type of shower, the guest list should be considered carefully.
- Shower gift and wedding gift are the same thing. If you've attended a shower and have gifted something nice, you're not expected to give a second gift at the wedding.
- Even if future MIL gave money towards the wedding, a gift is expected at the shower; after all, this is close family. It doesn't necessarily have to be extravagant -- a set of towels or a couple casserole dishes could turn out to be much-used and appreciated.
- Oddly, my step-sister had multiple showers (without many overlapping guests), and her mother was invited to them all. She actually TOOK BACK the gifts and re-wrapped them for her future showers. They were nice gifts, and my sister just laughed about it.
- A wedding shower and a bridal shower are the same thing. No matter what you call it, a shower can have "a theme" such as lingerie, hardware, etc. If no theme is designated, general household goods -- kitchen, linens, etc. are expected.
- Here in the South, we occasionally see a "Pounding Shower", though it's old-fashioned. It's a shower for a large group where people want to do something small for the bride -- each participant gives a pound of something for the bride's pantry: spices, flour, noodles, even canned goods. A Sunday school class or a Girl Scout troop might have a "Pounding" for its teacher or leader -- it's not typically a big party like a shower.
- Some people would be uncomfortable giving lingerie (or attending a lingerie shower), so if you give that type of shower, the guest list should be considered carefully.
- Shower gift and wedding gift are the same thing. If you've attended a shower and have gifted something nice, you're not expected to give a second gift at the wedding.
- Even if future MIL gave money towards the wedding, a gift is expected at the shower; after all, this is close family. It doesn't necessarily have to be extravagant -- a set of towels or a couple casserole dishes could turn out to be much-used and appreciated.
- Oddly, my step-sister had multiple showers (without many overlapping guests), and her mother was invited to them all. She actually TOOK BACK the gifts and re-wrapped them for her future showers. They were nice gifts, and my sister just laughed about it.