I think that the parents have come a long way in reaching across the aisle (so to speak), but not the scientists. There are some things we agree on. #1 we have little tolerance (seriously) for parents that stick their heads in the sand, because #2 no matter what you choose to do, you gotta start doing it
early. Early intervention seems to be the one thing everyone will agree on. And you'll note, that's one thing that the politicians are claiming to emphasize too. But it's a very safe thing to emphasize.
After that, I see more acceptance among parents of the various methods used. I mean, we don't use ABA. Went to a 3-week training that used discreet trial, but it wasn't exactly ABA. But that was it. I don't think it was beneficial to Justin, because he was doing fine learning in a more traditional way.
However. ABA works wonders for many children.
Going the DAN route, for whatever reason, it does work for many children, each to a different extent. Some children, it will do specific things but not other stuff. And since many of our kids also have immunity issues, allergies, asthma, etc, the DAN route may be justified for those reasons. The DAN things we've done have made enough difference that I am, to this day, pursuing more investigation of it. But for me, it's not so much about the autism anymore, it's more of a holistic approach to the other medical problems we have.
Looking at it from "celebrate neurodiversity" perspective, that is also very very valid. First off, because the research is coming so slow and our kids are growing every day, so it doesn't matter so much what happens in future generations, we need to deal with today. (that didn't come out exactly right, you know what I mean) Secondly, because there is probably some genetic component in there. Because we don't know really, historically, how prevalent autism was. I don't know if it was around during the Renaissance. Probably was. Locked away in a crazy bin or abandoned in the woods, who knows, but it probably existed, long before the MMR or teflon or baby formula or pitocin... Now something has definately happened recently to make the numbers go crazy, but I can't help but think that autism has been with us for centuries, it just wasn't diagnosed. So there has to be some sort of genetic thing going on too, in part, at least for some kids.
Part of the whole thing with the spectrum is that it
is a spectrum. There isn't any reason to believe that with as many manifestations as there are, that there is a singular cause. While we talk on this board and find many many similarities, I think we could also come up with as many things that are completely different. Over-sensitive, undersensitive. Tremendous verbal skill, total lack of language. Recoils from touch, craves pressure.
Completely opposite things. Some days I feel like the ASD label is a dumping ground for kids that they don't know what to do with. To be blunt, the head-bangers are under the same umbrella as Temple Grandin. Those are two pretty extreme extremes. What on Earth would make
anyone think there is a singular treatment for both of those extremes?
You'd have to approach any scientific study very carefully. Let's take, for example, the whole MMR/thimerisol issue. Yes, I believe some of our kids have mercury damage. But if I was
trying to do a study, I could come up with plenty of kids with autism that probably wouldn't show mercury damage. Because their "damage" is from something else, or because the autism is genetic. Therefore,
drum roll, autism isn't caused by mercury. If I was trying to do a study to show it was because of refrigerator mothers, I could find enough kids to show that, because I'm sure we've all met at least one other mom with a special needs kid that is totally checked out.
Some of us had c-sections but not all, some kids were breast-fed and some weren't, some kids appear to have no immunity problems at all but still have autism, some of us were young mothers and some weren't, some kids showed signs almost from birth but many Aspie kids aren't diagnosed until mid-elementary school. Any valid scientific study has got to be willing to consider all the possibilities, and it has to be done without influence. Not likely to happen.