We had kids of all different ages, from about five years old to college. About half the group was kids, if you count the older ones. We probably had 13 or 14 out of 42 people in the under 12 age group. The kids tended to stay with their families much of the time, just because when you're walking around with the tour group that's what you do, and even when there is on your own time families tended to go their own way. Still, there were some events where the kids were given play time and our youngest enjoyed those. Also, times like at the pool in Tuscany or in the yard during the barbeque, they would get together and do "kid stuff." I posted before that Mamadis brought some of those neon glow stick things....enough for everyone. They ALL (even my teens) were running around in the yard playing with them and having a great time.
And you know what, Pillow? If I had that day in Rome I would have felt like I missed a lot as well. We toured everything but the Vatican one day, but then had the evening to wander around and eat on our own, which was nice. The second day we toured the Vatican until just before noon, but after that we were free until dinner time. We had bus passes provided by ABD, so we could ride home, we could walk home, we could take the bus a ways, get off and then get back on...whatever we wanted for seven hours. Because our boys tend to get a little fed up with museums we headed for an area with a marketplace, sat outside and ate pizza and watched the locals come shop and barter. Then we fed them gelato (which made us all happy). After dinner that evening, the boys stayed in the room (benefit to having teens) and DH and I went out by the hotel to a little sidewalk cafe, had a glass of wine and just watched people go by. Same thing in Venice...our arrival day was booked but we had the evening free, but the second day, after our mask making which was over by noon, we were free to wonder the streets, shop, enjoy ourselves until our farewell dinner. It wouldn't have been the same without that free time, but we did have some!
I understand why excursions have to be the way they are, you are trying to see so much in such a short time....next day, different city. ABD's pace is a bit more relaxed than that. For me, free time wasn't the issue so much as losing the ability to do things like negotiating a better hotel room (I could have sicked the guide on it, but I felt they had worked so hard I decided not to make it an issue....now if it had been ME.........). The other thing that was starting to get to me after a week was the waiting around. We waited in the morning until all were ready, we waited at restrooms for everyone to get through, we waited at meeting places while touring for everyone to show...etc. All of it was necessary, and thank goodness we had our free time to break it up, but by the end of the week I was happy to not have that be part of my day. Still, looking back, that was a minor inconvenience that only got annoying toward the end.