The only reason people don't walk away from plane crashes is that we define "crash" as an event where somebody on board dies. If you count the emergencies landings where everybody walks away just fine (the airline equivalent of a fender bender) then you would think of airlines as even safer. Things sometimes go wrong, but things very rarely go fatally wrong.
As for lack of control, most people that are afraid of flying are not afraid of busses, trains, or cars where somebody else is driving, even though there is a similar lack of control, and even though the person in control of a bus or car is probably less competent than an airline pilot and the computers that help control the plane.
Again, I don't blame anyone who is afraid to fly; I'm a nervous flyer myself. I'm just saying that if you drive because a plane crashed recently, you are putting yourself and your family in grave danger. Your chances of getting to Orlando alive in a car are much smaller than doing so in a plane.
(And no, I don't work for the airline industry.)
