charliegirl76
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Sep 27, 2012
So glad I inspired you! It's always a nice thing to hear!
Posting pictures is a breeze, once you get the hang of it....I resize all the pictures I want to post before uploading them anywhere. On my home computer I can resize several at the same time, which makes it super easy (I have Windows 7, if you have that, you should be able do the same through "edit photos"). Then I upload everything to photobucket and organize them into folders. Once you have all your pics uploaded, you can click on the image and it has an IMG link already there for you (it should be the last one on the right side). You click in the IMG box where the link is and it automatically copies it, then you just paste it in your comment box here. No need to click the picture above the comment box since you've copied everything from photobucket.
Beware that if you go into photobucket after posting your pics and reorganize the photos, like I did, you will have to go back and fix all the broken links in your posts. If you don't go back and fix the links, then the photos will appear as the little red x's. If you like to be organized, then I would make folders and organize first, then post. If you still have questions, feel free to PM me and I can walk you through it. I posted on several message boards for a few years and had to refresh my brain on how everything works, I'm remembering most things and am happy to help if you need any.
Your DF can't see anything you post on the Disbrides FB page. I always check and double-check that I'm actually posting it to the Disbrides and not on my wall or someone else's, I'm so scared he's going to see my dress or something else I don't want him to see yet.
I'm really sorry you're having so much trouble with the responses. I would definitely tell your uncle (the one wanting to bring his new girl) that she won't be invited. Has anyone met her yet? I would say, something to the effect of, "If you were still with (insert former common-law wife/long-term gf here), I wouldn't mind since that was someone I knew and had a bond with, but I don't know (insert new gf here) and don't feel as comfortable with her being there." In your own words, of course. After all, you know what would set him off and make him upset. Hopefully, he will understand. As for his invite, I would probably send it to grandma. I'm having to do that as well. I think I have double invites going to at least three addresses. And I feel a little bad because I'm only doing that for certain cousins....oh well, we can't please everyone, can we.
I don't understand why it makes a difference if your DF already had someone's address. YOU don't and you are asking for it. Is it really THAT difficult? My mom's older brother has lived in the same house for.ever. and I knew his address (I stayed with them for several weeks when I moved to San Antonio), I still made him write his address down on my spreadsheet. I tried to make it simple. If you don't write down your address, and write legibly, then you won't be getting a save the date or invite. Period. We are trying to make things easy, but others make things difficult. The fact is, it's a formal invite, everything needs to be accurate. My DF is very non-confrontational as well. He will avoid conflict at ANY cost, so I feel your pain with that. But I know he will stick up for me, we had that conversation many moons ago because one of his friends doesn't like me. I think you'd be surprised at what he would say if someone says something negative. I don't think they'd say anything negative anyway, you're really just asking for information. It's not like you're calling every day or sending endless emails. I think it's nice that you're including them and trying to get the family to be a little closer. Just remember, you can't force it. It needs to come naturally, and probably over time. In the end, if they do become closer, they will be greatful to you for the nudge.
For your uncle that is performing the ceremony, if your dad doesn't mind, I would have him call again and ask if they got the email requesting their address. Maybe he got it and decided to respond later (I also don't understand why people do that....just respond and get it done), or maybe he hasn't checked his email. I used to go weeks and weeks without checking my email. Anyway, I would definitely be making another phone call. DF had to do this with one of his uncles, it turned out he spends half of the year in Florida and the other half in California and was trying to make sure he would be in Florida at the time of the wedding so he could attend.
I *completely* understand how you're feeling about all the effort going unnoticed. I feel exactly the same. I had to realize that no one, besides myself, DF, and maybe our parents will prioritize our wedding to a degree that we do. It's hard to think about and makes me sad, but it really is true. It's not that they don't care, it's just that they don't know. They don't know how much time and effort (and money) we are putting into all of this. It is our life for a year (in some cases well over a year)! What I've been trying to do is focus on things that we can do for the wedding, and most other stuff (like emails and informational things that people may or may not be reading or looking at) have fallen by the wayside. If they're not going to realize what we've put into it, then I'm not going to put as much of an effort. Obvious exceptions to this rule are the save the dates, invites, and welcome bags. I try to protect myself from the heartbreak of making nice newsletters that some of the other girls spend hours, days, weeks on and then feeling like people barely look at them. The other thing that helps me at times is something one of my co-workers told me, she said, "They are probably thinking, 'Oh it's six months away still' but you're thinking, 'IT'S SIX MONTHS AWAY!!!!'" It makes me laugh because it's so true.
Never apologize for venting....or being long-winded, or rambling. I ramble on and on myself, as you can see. You need to vent, and this is a great place, you have a lot of people here going through the same thing you're going through and having many of the same frustrations. We understand. We are here to be a sounding board for all of your ideas, but also lend an ear and help you through some of the more difficult times.
Happy you ordered your home reception invites! I look forward to seeing them after you get the hang of posting pics! Sending lots of pixie dust your way! Everything will get better!
. We're headed to the Rough Riders game in Frisco Sunday. I think Ogando pitched Friday; wonder if he'll be pitching again. That would be a treat in Frisco!
