Kitty-chan
Cheese is always the answer
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- Nov 13, 2004
I just have to start by saying I am so glad there's a message board here where I can post this question!
I need some advice. DS9 has recently been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which has made all sorts of puzzling behaviors more understandable. We just found out in July, so I'm still in the process of grieving, the first stages of learning, and trying to make what small adaptations are helpful. (We're also working on various interventions/treatment options, but I really don't want to stumble into flame-war territory, so I'd rather not go into that.)
We've been on many Disney trips together, just the two of us, and are planning another in December (hip hip hooray!). We've done great together on all these trips -- I know his triggers well, and have been adapting to his particular, specific needs for years, long before we had a diagnosis for his quirkiness. (When I first got the news I thought, "I can't possibly handle parenting a disabled child!" and then realized, "wait a minute . . . I've already been doing it for nine years! Surely I can keep muddling through.")
But for the first time, I find myself wondering if I should get a GAC. Most of the time he does fine at Disney, and I'm guessing he'll continue to do fine, but as he gets older people respond differently to him (behaviors that would have been tolerated in an apparent 6-year-old aren't treated so kindly when the kid appears to be much older -- and my son is very tall for his age, so not only does he have AS, but he's commonly perceived as being 2-3 years older than he is!). As he gets older, I get more and more of the "what's wrong with you, can't you handle your own kid?" kind of looks, and he gets more and more of the "you should be acting better for someone your age" kind of treatment from strangers.
So, I'm thinking about getting a GAC, in case he has a meltdown at an inconvenient time (like, oh, in the middle of a ride, or in the middle of Main St when it's time to clear out for a parade) (well, as if any time is convenient, right?). I do a lot of things to try to manage his well-being, to keep meltdowns to a minimum, but they can't be 100% eradicated. I'm thinking that if he really melts down badly, it would be helpful to be able to show a nearby CM my GAC, and maybe they'd be able to offer a little extra assistance of one kind or another. And as it's always just the two of us on these trips, I don't have any other adult to help me if he goes off the deep end. (DH hates theme parks, but that's a topic for another thread!)
But my dilemna . . . I don't want to make a big deal of DS's AS, and make him feel like a different, "sick" child. He's not used to getting any special treatment anyway. And I'll need to take him with me to request the GAC. So . . . could those with experience tell me what the process is like of getting a GAC, and how they've handled it with their child without emphasizing the child's "outsider" status? Also, tales of the usefullness of GACs during Aspergian meltdowns would be nice to hear -- it might help me know whether it's worth it to go get the card.
(BTW, I do have a copy of his diagnosis to take with me if necessary.)
I need some advice. DS9 has recently been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which has made all sorts of puzzling behaviors more understandable. We just found out in July, so I'm still in the process of grieving, the first stages of learning, and trying to make what small adaptations are helpful. (We're also working on various interventions/treatment options, but I really don't want to stumble into flame-war territory, so I'd rather not go into that.)
We've been on many Disney trips together, just the two of us, and are planning another in December (hip hip hooray!). We've done great together on all these trips -- I know his triggers well, and have been adapting to his particular, specific needs for years, long before we had a diagnosis for his quirkiness. (When I first got the news I thought, "I can't possibly handle parenting a disabled child!" and then realized, "wait a minute . . . I've already been doing it for nine years! Surely I can keep muddling through.")
But for the first time, I find myself wondering if I should get a GAC. Most of the time he does fine at Disney, and I'm guessing he'll continue to do fine, but as he gets older people respond differently to him (behaviors that would have been tolerated in an apparent 6-year-old aren't treated so kindly when the kid appears to be much older -- and my son is very tall for his age, so not only does he have AS, but he's commonly perceived as being 2-3 years older than he is!). As he gets older, I get more and more of the "what's wrong with you, can't you handle your own kid?" kind of looks, and he gets more and more of the "you should be acting better for someone your age" kind of treatment from strangers.
So, I'm thinking about getting a GAC, in case he has a meltdown at an inconvenient time (like, oh, in the middle of a ride, or in the middle of Main St when it's time to clear out for a parade) (well, as if any time is convenient, right?). I do a lot of things to try to manage his well-being, to keep meltdowns to a minimum, but they can't be 100% eradicated. I'm thinking that if he really melts down badly, it would be helpful to be able to show a nearby CM my GAC, and maybe they'd be able to offer a little extra assistance of one kind or another. And as it's always just the two of us on these trips, I don't have any other adult to help me if he goes off the deep end. (DH hates theme parks, but that's a topic for another thread!)
But my dilemna . . . I don't want to make a big deal of DS's AS, and make him feel like a different, "sick" child. He's not used to getting any special treatment anyway. And I'll need to take him with me to request the GAC. So . . . could those with experience tell me what the process is like of getting a GAC, and how they've handled it with their child without emphasizing the child's "outsider" status? Also, tales of the usefullness of GACs during Aspergian meltdowns would be nice to hear -- it might help me know whether it's worth it to go get the card.
(BTW, I do have a copy of his diagnosis to take with me if necessary.)