Sad update....she has lost her battle and is now resting peacefully with God.
My dad and I both received a call from the hospital to come and see her tonight, we were able to visit her. She insisted she get the ventilator tube removed so she could talk to us. Although she could barely speak she was quite mad she couldn't go home to live her final minutes. Beyond that I was able to find out how she wanted her memorial...a party held in her honor...which I much prefer to a somber one.
My dad and i are doing ok, we both pretty much had to accept it last week and have been trying to sort out our finances and other things in preparation for this...we held out hope, as did she until the very end, but it was her time to go.
so resting in peace is my mother, Diane Lane, figure skating coach, mother, wife, and loved by many, many people.