Luckymomoftwo
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Nov 17, 2006
I understand that everyone has different experiences and responses. Let me first say that I love my children without reservation. I rejoice in all that they can do, and they continue to surprise me. However, for me, and for many parents like me, one day I had dreams and expectations, and the next, I had to accept the fact that I was not going to have a "normal" pregnancy, birth or bonding moments. That my life was not going to go exactly as I had so carefully planned and hoped. I think Welcome to Holland says it very well. The landscape of my future and the future of my family had inexorably altered. Although not necessary for everyone perhaps, letting go of my old dreams was an important step in accepting and appreciating my children and their experience without bitterness. I think its important to realize that grieving does not make one weaker, but stronger and more able to fully embrace what lies ahead. In Love Nicole
Nicole, very well said (or typed in this case ) Just like I said in my last post...God only gives us what we are capable of handling and I think your post re-iterates that. You've got such an optomistic attitude in how you've handled the fact that your life, pregancy, & child's life is not what you planned and hoped. And I think God knew you'd be able to embrace what He gave you.
Deb