Pea-n-Me
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 18, 2004
I just saw on another thread (a current one on the CB, did not go searching!) you mentioned your former husband was "controlling". (And from here, I didn't realize you were divorced twice.) I don't know what happened there, but I'd think it would be natural if that was your experience to sort of "react" badly to your impression of someone trying to control you or the conversation, etc. Only mentioning that as another thing to maybe have insight into about yourself. We all do that in one way or another, I'd say, based on what our own experiences in life are. So in other words it's not necessarily that every man is trying to control you, but it might feel that way to you if it's been upsetting to you in the past. I'd think it would take some time in a relationship to really know whether someone was really trying to control you or not. What happens in the first initial dates may not be really what people are like. It's just sort of that getting-to-know-you game. And it does seem really confusing today. I feel for you. Hang in there. And yes, be yourself. Maybe with a little tweaking here and there. Maybe don't try so hard.