VandVsmama
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...I wonder what the heck goes on at a kid's home, you know? Case in point:
A child (DC for short) is going to be 10 in <2 months. Over the course of a few days over a short period time (like spread out over 2 weeks), I have observed the following behaviors and I wonder: (a) what's with the parents? and (b) what's up with this kid?
A child (DC for short) is going to be 10 in <2 months. Over the course of a few days over a short period time (like spread out over 2 weeks), I have observed the following behaviors and I wonder: (a) what's with the parents? and (b) what's up with this kid?
- DC's voice only seems to operate at 1 level - loud. Like shouting. Nothing wrong w/DC's hearing. Parents have had it checked by an audiologist & ENT specialist. Kid can hear just fine.
- Blurts out swear words regularly...swear words for male body parts, says stuff like "Oh f-word" and the like.
- Constantly interrupts during conversations
- ADHD behaviors like getting up in the middle of a meal or playing a board game to run around the table. Almost can't handle sitting still. Constantly moving.
- Climbs on the furniture with shoes on. Continues to do it despite being told not to.
- Whines, pouts, has temper tantrums when doesn't get her way.
- No sense of personal space. Climbs on people...adults AND children. Gets angry when person DC is climbing on tell her to please stop it. This occurs regardless of the age of the person DC climbs on. Gets really close to you when she talks to you. Person she talks to backs up, and she inches closer. Doesn't understand why people find this off-putting.
- Tells 'Yo Mama' jokes. And DC is of an ethnic origin who should NOT be repeating such jokes.
- Argumentative & passionately justifies why DC thinks what she does is ok.
- Blurted out to a boy at school in her group of friends (all boys, isn't friends w/any girls) that she has a crush on him. Then wondered why everybody in school started asking her if she likes Boy X. Then decided that a good & logical way to get them all to stop asking her would be to try and hit all of them. When instructed by an adult that this was not ok and she'd get in trouble for it, said, "What? They wouldn't stop, so I just did it. If they had only stopped asking me, then I wouldn't have to hit them."
- Has, like, zero social intelligence. It's like DC's social radar is off. Gets a few inches from your face when she talks to you. Then shouts back at you. Shouts even louder when excited, which is often.
- Has encyclopedia level knowledge of 1 or 2 subjects.
- Cheats all the time at games, then claims that she temporarily 'forgot' the game rules. Repeatedly in a short period of time. Like it happened enough that it was obvious the kid wasn't just 'forgetting'
- LICKS board game pieces and even puts them in her mouth. Cries, pouts, whines, & almost has a melt down when scolded & corrected.
- Has zero ability to think of something from another kid's point of view. Honestly thinks that it's fine to just blurt out whatever you are thinking. So if DC thinks that a kid's outfit is ugly, she'll go up to that kid and say, "Your outfit is ugly." If she thinks your hair looks weird, DC will say, "Your hair looks weird." When told by the kid or the person that isn't very nice and she shouldn't say such things, DC argues, gets mad and says, "What? I'm just being HONEST! I'm just saying....!"
- Almost got kicked out of an after school program a little over a year ago for stabbing a kid with a pencil. Why did that happen? "Because he was bothering me and he wouldn't stop."
- Brags about getting other kids at school (often kids older than her) to carry her backpack for her and do other stuff for her. Says stuff like "I just tell them ___ so they feel sorry for me and do stuff for me." However, the kid's mother does this, too.
- Mild self-stimulating behavior. Like sucks on fingers when excited. Or sucks on her forearm during half of a kid's movie, like her arm was a tasty treat or something.
- Totally oblivious to personal hygiene & cleanliness, but some of this is age appropriate, I think.
- Picky about clothing. Freaks out when there are tags in her clothes that rub on her skin, so the parents cut the tags out of everything and they have to have DC try on every article of clothing before they buy it (apparently that's been going on for years). Would be perfectly happy wearing same outfit for an entire week.
- Gets along best when playing with other kids when it's parallel play, not interactive play. When engaged in interactive play, is happiest when she's like the director of a play and tells the other kids what to do & what to say & who's going to say this first and that second. Gets very angry & argumentative & disruptive when told by playmates & friends that they don't want to play like that.