How to keep from getting insanely jealous?

[carcam51]

It just makes me wish bad things would happen to those who got all that good stuff.

Do you believe in Karma....you know, what goes around comes around? Maybe if you chose to be excited for those who did get something rather than "wishing bad things" on them, then maybe, just maybe you'd get something too.

 

[carcam51]

duplicate post...sorry

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

Do you believe in Karma....you know, what goes around comes around? Maybe if you chose to be excited for those who did get something rather than "wishing bad things" on them, then maybe, just maybe you'd get something too.

And who says I don't feel guilty for feeling like that?

No one likes feeling that way ....

 

[carcam51]

I personally didn't sense guilt in your OP. Anger (as you stated) and jealousy. All I'm saying is try to turn the anger into joy. Anger and jealousy will lead you to attachement, and the only thing attachment will lead you to is illness. I believe someone suggested reading or watching The Secret, and I would agree with that. I believe someone else mentioned Karma earlier, but it didn't feel as if he/she was following it's laws either. It felt very harsh. Much luck to you on your journey...wherever it may lead.

 

[robinb]

Honestly, there will always be someone who has more than you do. Sometimes it's monetary ... like being able to stay at the Grand Floridean concierge or hiring Mickey and Minnie to be at your wedding. Sometimes it's luck ... like being at the right place and time for a YOAMD Fast Pass or a special time with a character without others around. Sometimes it's the love ... having a special person in your life or a tight knit family. We are all "jealous" of something. I think the measure of happiness in a person is how they handle that little twinge. If you fixate on what someone else has you cannot appreciate what you have: a day in the Magic Kingdom, being able to select a candy animal, sharing WDW with your family.

When I said that you should make your own magic, I wasn't kidding. I believe that if you put positive energy into the universe it will return to you.

 

[Capt'n Jack]

And who says I don't feel guilty for feeling like that?

No one likes feeling that way ....

You are choosing to feel that way. Nobody is making you feel that way but yourself.

Choose to be happy, and you will be.

 

[SonicGuy]

I don't know - but the worst of me rears though when I see or hear of people and all the great "bonuses" Disney gives to them be it a Million Dream blessing or special treatment due to illiness, birthday, wedding, winning a free trip etc.

I just get so ANGRY because NONE of that stuff has ever been given to me or my friends and family in all the times I have gone there. It just makes me wish bad things would happen to those who got all that good stuff.

It's a nasty thing but I feel that way alot ...

How am I to get over it all?

Has anyone ever felt the same as me?!

I'm a Princess and princesses are supposed to be good, fair, kind and bear no harsh feelings to no one.

I feel sorry for you for feeling this way. I hope that if you have children you do not teach them that same selfish approach to life. If you want to help yourself maybe one year skip one of your trips, since Disney seems to ruin it by not making you feel special enough, and donate the money you would have spent on the trip to help someone less fortunate go to WDW. i can assure you that they would feel plenty SPECIAL for just getting to be there. Have a great day!

 

[shopper89]

You are choosing to feel that way. Nobody is making you feel that way but yourself.

Choose to be happy, and you will be.

ITA!!

 

[Capt'n Jack]

ITA!!

I'm just a scurvy pirate, what is ITA???

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

I personally didn't sense guilt in your OP. Anger (as you stated) and jealousy. All I'm saying is try to turn the anger into joy. Anger and jealousy will lead you to attachement, and the only thing attachment will lead you to is illness. I believe someone suggested reading or watching The Secret, and I would agree with that. I believe someone else mentioned Karma earlier, but it didn't feel as if he/she was following it's laws either. It felt very harsh. Much luck to you on your journey...wherever it may lead.

You may not have felt the "guilt in it, but I sure did. Just because I didn't write it does not mean it's not there. As I said, who likes feeling that way? But I do feel the jealousy and anger at time - well, not anger really - but just left out. If I didn't say I felt that way then my post would be dishonest. I'd rather be honest with how I feel rather than try to hide it up. That way, people can better see how I feel.

I am able to deal with it in better ways than some - I expressed my feelings here than rather act out on it as the man in the post about the water slide said. THAT is inexcusable and really dumb - I'd never yell or get mad in the park. Here, well - I dunno if this is just as bad but at least it's more or less more civil.

I always express happiness if someone gets something nice, but it's my "inner" feelings that get very envious. You know?

 

[ANTSS2001]

I'm just a scurvy pirate, what is ITA???

I Truly Agree ???

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

We are all "jealous" of something. I think the measure of happiness in a person is how they handle that little twinge. If you fixate on what someone else has you cannot appreciate what you have: a day in the Magic Kingdom, being able to select a candy animal, sharing WDW with your family.

When I said that you should make your own magic, I wasn't kidding. I believe that if you put positive energy into the universe it will return to you.

I have been to Disney more than most, it's true ... that is lucky enough cause I know cast members who can get me in for nothing. We go together and have good time, that too is a very lucky thing as well. But I was just - as I had said to another poster, I still get jealous. As you said, we all get jealous ... I can't think of anyone who has not.

It's not like I don't appreciate such things, I do ... but jealousy is one of my main faux pas.

There are more times I am more sympathetic than jealous - like when my I attended a benefit for a medical mission my parents support. They have speakers that talk about their experiences overseas and THAT'S when I see how much I have - I just fail to miss it when I am at Disney.

 

[MagicMe]

How you approach life (it's ups and downs, it's good and bad) is your choice. Unfortunately, you are choosing to miss the opportunities. Most of the "dreams" being handed out are small moments. I was there last November and had an opportunity to "taste test" new fudge flavors. We were asked if we wanted to and some people might say "no thanks" or "not right now, thank you". Well we said "yes" and they gave us paper chef hats to decorate, then we tasted about four different flavors and gave our opinions. We were presented with a "magical moments" certificate when we were done. That was our "dream". On the same trip my adult son was there on his birthday and just as we got to the area in SM where you split to the right or the left, the CM wished him Happy Birthday and asked him if he wanted to see the control tower. Now some people are in too much of a hurry to get on the ride (since it's just that room that separates the two lines) but we thought it would be something different that we've never done so we said "yes". We went into the control room, they explained all of the different monitors and the way it follows the cars. We were only there for a short time but it was actually quite interesting. After we left the tower, the CM took us to the front of the line to ride. We never "expected" that. We were happy just to have had an experience we never had before.

Some people are too busy looking for the large dreams that they miss all of the little dreams.

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

How you approach life (it's ups and downs, it's good and bad) is your choice. Unfortunately, you are choosing to miss the opportunities. Most of the "dreams" being handed out are small moments. I was there last November and had an opportunity to "taste test" new fudge flavors. We were asked if we wanted to and some people might say "no thanks" or "not right now, thank you". Well we said "yes" and they gave us paper chef hats to decorate, then we tasted about four different flavors and gave our opinions. We were presented with a "magical moments" certificate when we were done. That was our "dream". On the same trip my adult son was there on his birthday and just as we got to the area in SM where you split to the right or the left, the CM wished him Happy Birthday and asked him if he wanted to see the control tower. Now some people are in too much of a hurry to get on the ride (since it's just that room that separates the two lines) but we thought it would be something different that we've never done so we said "yes". We went into the control room, they explained all of the different monitors and the way it follows the cars. We were only there for a short time but it was actually quite interesting. After we left the tower, the CM took us to the front of the line to ride. We never "expected" that. We were happy just to have had an experience we never had before.

Some people are too busy looking for the large dreams that they miss all of the little dreams.

Thanks for sharing that, I'll be sure to be open to anything the next time I go, but I am not gonna expect anything either ... However, behind the scenes stuff is always great!

Um, BTW ... what does SM mean?

 

[Rustysmom]

Feeling jealous like that will just eat at you and make you sick. You said that you're able to visit WDW a lot (and get in for free and you're jealous of others?):, so I'm sure you will get a wish granted soon, especially if YOAMD goes into next year.

What's scary is that you said you wish bad things would happen to the people who got the good stuff. Wow. For all you know, someone who got the "good stuff" could have cancer, or recently lost a loved one, or whatever. You don't know what's going on in their lives and maybe that one little dream meant a lot to them and there was a reason they got it.

Now that I think about it, if it bothers you that much, maybe you shouldn't go during the YOAMD. I hope the jealousy stays centered only around Disney because if it doesn't, maybe you need to talk to somebody about the problem.

 

[Unregistered]

Chill out, Molly! My do you have a way about putting nasty labels on people for your FIRST post.

First of all, that wasn't my main concern about "illness" - I just said I envied ANYONE who got any special surprises. And if you too time to read the post and others after, I even said that feel nasty for being so envious. Envy ISN'T a Princess thing. That's why I asked what others would think and do ...

Who said I was doing ANYTHING nasty? I was simply stating my feelings.

I'm sorry Molly, you really seem to be very jump the gun judgmental. You can state your feelings as everyone did, but it was you who chose to reply in a nastier tone than even I started out in.

It does not matter if it is my FIRST or 100th post, wishing bad things would happen to people fortunate enough to have something good come their way is NUTTY!! Perhaps you should hang out with Chip and Dale since they like NUTS, maybe they could help your experience out??? And this is me stating my feelings!!!

 

[MagicMe]

SM is Space Mountain. I hope you find all of the little magical moments on your next trip!!

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

It does not matter if it is my FIRST or 100th post, wishing bad things would happen to people fortunate enough to have something good come their way is NUTTY!! Perhaps you should hang out with Chip and Dale since they like NUTS, maybe they could help your experience out??? And this is me stating my feelings!!!

As another poster has said, we all get jealous at one point or another in our lives. I'm sure you have too.

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

Feeling jealous like that will just eat at you and make you sick. You said that you're able to visit WDW a lot (and get in for free and you're jealous of others?):, so I'm sure you will get a wish granted soon, especially if YOAMD goes into next year.

What's scary is that you said you wish bad things would happen to the people who got the good stuff. Wow. For all you know, someone who got the "good stuff" could have cancer, or recently lost a loved one, or whatever. You don't know what's going on in their lives and maybe that one little dream meant a lot to them and there was a reason they got it.

Now that I think about it, if it bothers you that much, maybe you shouldn't go during the YOAMD. I hope the jealousy stays centered only around Disney because if it doesn't, maybe you need to talk to somebody about the problem.

The jealousy is just in Disney terms and yes, I could stop going if I wanted. But I won't let the green eyed monster take that away from me - I usually get over it. Not just that, I like Disney too much! But I do have my tinges every now and then.

 

[robinb]

As another poster has said, we all get jealous at one point or another in our lives. I'm sure you have too.

Please don't use my comment as a validation of your feelings. How you handle those little petty jealousies makes or breaks you as a grown-up. You seem very ... young ... to me. Do you mind telling us how old you are?