Just got back from the weekend at my mom's and she doesn't seem to be doing well at all. She had a lot of pain Friday, so we tried the Fentanyl patch yesterday. She woke me up at 3 this morning to come take it off because she said it was giving her more pain, plus she tried to urinate twice and was unable to, which never happened before. So I took the patch off. I'm not sure if it was the patch or the fact that once again she didn't have a bowel movement in a week, and we gave her magnesium citrate last night. At least she finally did have a bowel movement.
After she went to the bathroom, she sat down for a while and then seemed very confused. I couldn't even understand her when she talked, and was talking about how she has to get a Swiffer duster to dust the ceiling and why did I take my old picture down and put our small wedding picture in it's place. It's been there for 15 years now! She was like that when we left. I just called her a little while and she still wasn't making much sense. I'm so nervous that she's going to get up and fall. Hopefully she'll sleep until the aide comes tomorrow morning.
I'm starting to think that hospice is for the birds because we called them to ask if they could get her some kind of foam pad to sit on because she's getting a bedsore.
The nurse we spoke to didn't want to do that and said something about it's not safe and to turn the patient every few hours. Problem is, my mom refused a hospital bed. She sits on the couch and she can't lie on her side or back. If she lies on her back, she can't breathe. For years, she's slept on the couch, but she was able to get up. Now that she can't get up much, she's getting the sore. So they are willing to give us a hospital bed, but they won't give us some kind of little foam pad for her to sit on? The first nurse who took all our info wanted to order a foam mattress for the couch, to which my mom said no, so I don't know what the problem is now. The nurse is coming tomorrow and I hope she'll order it, along with more pills because she's running out. They are getting me really annoyed.
My mom's church is also getting me annoyed. She's been going to it for over 40 years, every single day until she started having problems with her knee a couple of years ago. I went there until I got married and went to their school. My DH called them three times now to please put her name in the bulletin so people can pray for her, like they do with all the sick parishoners, and for the third week in a row, her name isn't there.
Last week he actually took a walk there and they said oh yes, it'll be in there next week.
Is it too much just to put her darn name there so people can pray?
I'm starting to think that I don't even want her funeral there, but I'm not sure what she wants. My DH used to be friends with a priest who was a Mom's church, and I think he's going to call him and ask if he can do it when the time comes.