No I didn't run this by the attorney. So I just sent him an email. The meeting isn't until 1 so he'll probably get back to me by then but I won't do anything until I talk to him.
The attorney doesn't need to be at this meeting because it's just the kick off where they explain your rights as a parent and the testing process and the timeline. Really we're just looking to run out the clock here and I don't want to spend $400 for the attorney to be listening for an hour. If they ask me to agree to anything I'll just tell them I need to talk to my attorney first. But I'm pretty sure that I'm just supposed to listen to them and receive the disclosures at this meeting. We WILL have the attorney present during the CSE meeting.
The attorney should be there to do your talking. At this point, anything you have done has dug your hole further, rightly or wrongly.
The nice thing about an attorney talking is the hole can't get bigger, it can only get smaller, b/c nothing the attorney says can be attributed directly to you. In fact, if I was at the meeting, I would say my attorney was going to do all the talking and I was gonna be the listener and to have the school proceed.
I do wish you luck OP. I know you're moving. If it were me, I'd have moved out of state, b/c that would end this, particularly if you went private or homeschooled in the fall - once you're another state's problem, your 1st state stops caring.
And I would tell you that the system has square holes they want everyone to fit in. It is enormous and runs as an assembly line. You want your child to stay a circle in that line, so of course, the system will do what it can to reject the circle and force it back to a square. If you keep staying in that system, this is gonna keep happening and piss the system off more.
And I know you keep rejecting it, but homeschooling is where many, many special needs kids and "weird" kids who didn't fit into the system comes to rest. Some get there b/c they don't get services, some get there b/c the services they get suck, some get there b/c their mental health needs it after always being labeled the "bad" kid or the "strange" kid, and some get there b/c their parents don't want to hold them academically behind, so they work on their other needs in gentle, 1-on-1 ways while allowing them to excel academically. If you get this current issue settled and you want to keep your child from the state's decision on your son's needs, you'll want to take back your right to personally educate your child, which right now you have given to the state.