So dh has decided it isn't necessary for him to do his quarterly sonograms. He asked why should he double them? I said to look for liver cancer. He said but why would they need to look for it more often now? It's the Imuran he said that might cause that. I said no, hon, it's the two diseases, and now that you have both, your chances are much higher. So he said, what's the point of knowing about it? Early detection is key to treatment I told him. He told me (and I hadn't known) that they cost us 500 dollars each after the insurance pays their part, and he thinks they just arent' necessary.
I asked him, didn't you hear what the dr. said? He floored me when he responded that he hadn't heard a word that dr. had said. Not a word past no remission. And the dr. had kept asking him if he'd understood and he'd said yes. I'm his wife and I had thought he'd understood. This is why when I said NASH that time, he'd said "what's that?" and I'd said, "what you have"..............I had thought that was strange then, but he'd heard nothing.
Which made me all the more determined to go to his appointment tomorrow with him even though I'm out of sick days and it wouldmean docked pay. But he told me they switched it to next Thursday morning. He doesn't want to go in the morning he said, he wanted a Friday afternoon. Strange in itself, as he's always wanted early mornings so he could go back to work. So he told them no. They told him it would push his appointment back a month. So he told me he won't go now until March. He didn't go get his other bloodwork done anyway, he's going to refuse the sonogram and he says "what's the dr. going to tell me anyway?"
He's drinking beer on weekends and back to eating what he wants much of the time......things that are off his diet.
He does still take his meds. He's having nightmares. He IS talking to me now.
I need guidance here. This is all a bit confusing to me. On the one hand he's talking to me about it, on the other, he seems to be rejecting his treatments and diagnostics out of hand.