Summer-Caitlin
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robinb said:Why not?
But it's not my mums wedding it's OURS, surely that is important!
robinb said:Why not?
Summer-Caitlin said:Does the fact that I DON'T want at all, to have a wedding in my home town, not mean anything to anyone????? Or should I just go against my own feelings?
You said you didn't want it in your home town. What does that have to do with not wanting to get married in your home town? I'm missing something.Summer-Caitlin said:But it's not my mums wedding it's OURS, surely that is important!
robinb said:You said you didn't want it in your home town. What does that have to do with not wanting to get married in your home town? I'm missing something.
robinb said:I'm not going to sugar-coat this and considering that this board has a lot of people who are getting/were married at WDW, I'm sure that many of you will disagree. My opinion is that "Destination Weddings" are by inherently selfish. The fact that you don't want your mums (who you get alone with) to even go to your wedding is perhaps one of the most selfish things I have read in a long time. It seems that even is she scrapes up enough money she will just be in the way of all the romantic honeymoon-type things you have planned with your new husband.
I think you should have a small wedding at home and take a terribly romantic honeymoon to WDW. There is nothing "Fairytale" about a wedding that brings heartbreak to the ones that love you.
TinkBride said:Think about who you are posting this to.......practically ALL of us on here are getting married in a Destantion Wedding........
None of us.....not even ONE.....can say that you have never done anything selfish! This poor girl (Summer-Caitlin) is dealing with the possibility of giving up her dreams that she has had since she was 11 to please other people in her life who are selfish as well.
It is really a lose-lose situation because no matter what someone's feelings may be hurt. But, i am sure her mother is not going to hold it against her. Would any of you hold it against your daughter if she lived her dream come true and you were not there? Would you actually be the type of mother that makes her feel guilty the rest of her life and hold a grudge and resentment?
I think you are all focusing on what the mother wants a little too much, not the bride.......but remember you are all so quick to bash her for having a dream......who is really the selfish ones here? Her mom will understand and accept.....just like you all would with your daughter's......possibly against your will......but "selfish" is actually expecting someone else give up their dream and hopes for you.......I would hope that ALL mothers would want their daughters to be happy, but I am finding that this may not always be true!
robinb said:My opinion is that "Destination Weddings" are by inherently selfish.
LuvOrtiz2004 said:I don't think you are being selfish at all. That's exactly what I wanted and I gave in because everyone was telling me I was wrong and now I regret it. It's suppose to be a special time for you and your fiance. Do whatever you think is best for the two of you!
TinkBride said:Think about who you are posting this to.......practically ALL of us on here are getting married in a Destantion Wedding........
None of us.....not even ONE.....can say that you have never done anything selfish! This poor girl (Summer-Caitlin) is dealing with the possibility of giving up her dreams that she has had since she was 11 to please other people in her life who are selfish as well.
It is really a lose-lose situation because no matter what someone's feelings may be hurt. But, i am sure her mother is not going to hold it against her. Would any of you hold it against your daughter if she lived her dream come true and you were not there? Would you actually be the type of mother that makes her feel guilty the rest of her life and hold a grudge and resentment?
I think you are all focusing on what the mother wants a little too much, not the bride.......but remember you are all so quick to bash her for having a dream......who is really the selfish ones here? Her mom will understand and accept.....just like you all would with your daughter's......possibly against your will......but "selfish" is actually expecting someone else give up their dream and hopes for you.......I would hope that ALL mothers would want their daughters to be happy, but I am finding that this may not always be true!
robinb said:I'm not going to sugar-coat this and considering that this board has a lot of people who are getting/were married at WDW, I'm sure that many of you will disagree. My opinion is that "Destination Weddings" are by inherently selfish. The fact that you don't want your mums (who you get alone with) to even go to your wedding is perhaps one of the most selfish things I have read in a long time. It seems that even is she scrapes up enough money she will just be in the way of all the romantic honeymoon-type things you have planned with your new husband.
I think you should have a small wedding at home and take a terribly romantic honeymoon to WDW. There is nothing "Fairytale" about a wedding that brings heartbreak to the ones that love you.
TinkBride said:Think about who you are posting this to.......practically ALL of us on here are getting married in a Destantion Wedding........
None of us.....not even ONE.....can say that you have never done anything selfish! This poor girl (Summer-Caitlin) is dealing with the possibility of giving up her dreams that she has had since she was 11 to please other people in her life who are selfish as well.
It is really a lose-lose situation because no matter what someone's feelings may be hurt. But, i am sure her mother is not going to hold it against her. Would any of you hold it against your daughter if she lived her dream come true and you were not there? Would you actually be the type of mother that makes her feel guilty the rest of her life and hold a grudge and resentment?
I think you are all focusing on what the mother wants a little too much, not the bride.......but remember you are all so quick to bash her for having a dream......who is really the selfish ones here? Her mom will understand and accept.....just like you all would with your daughter's......possibly against your will......but "selfish" is actually expecting someone else give up their dream and hopes for you.......I would hope that ALL mothers would want their daughters to be happy, but I am finding that this may not always be true!
disneyjunkie said:The OP asked if it's selfish to not want her mother to attend her wedding. My answer is YES.
I don't care where the wedding takes place, how can you exclude parents that you are close to. I have friends that have awful relationships with their parents. None of them even considered not having their parents attend the weddings.
As a mother, I'd be very hurt if my son decided he didn't want me to share in his special day.
Not wanting your parents to be present at your wedding has to be the ultimate BRIDEZILLA attitude.
Summer-Caitlin said:Now that I think of it though, when I was being dragged to Australia and back again , 3 times, throughout my childhood, did I get consulted on that? Did I hell, my parents did what made them happy and never consulted my brother or I, so why should I be any different?