My parents completely paid for my education and my siblings' education. Education was always very highly valued in my family. Both of my parents and 3 of my grandparents had at least an undergraduate degree and several with graduate/professional degrees too. So for us, it was an expectation that we would go to college and my parents instilled this from a young age.
For me, my education included undergrad and a law school/masters of public health dual degree program. I was much like
@DisneyMandC, very type A and focused on my goals. I was also very conscious of the cost to my parents. I worked throughout college and law school (with the exception of my 1L year because they prohibit having a job). I chose a law school that provided better merit aid and gave in state tuition if you worked as a RA. I also completed my undergrad degree on time and finished my JD/MPH degrees a year early to help save money.
But even though I worked and pitched in as I could, if I had needed to foot the bill, there is no way that I could have worked through school and come out with little or no debt. Working 10 hours per week in law school is intense when you also have hundreds of pages of reading as well. I took the job in order to get the in-state tuition rate, which saved my parents something like $25k per year. So I graduated without any student loans and it has been the best gift that my parents could ever have given me.
DH went to a university in Toronto and commuted each day, which meant that he didn't have any housing costs. He just had his student loans and the cost of education is so much lower in Canada than in the US. He paid a significant portion of his loans before we got married and once we got married, it was the first thing that we knocked out on our debt dumping journey.
I look at my peers that are struggling under the weight of student loans, housing costs and the expense of kids. I don't think all that debt has really taught them a better lesson than me. Skills like financial literacy and time management are skills that are taught and learned over a child's entire life, mainly by their parents. I think that if a kid gets to the point of starting college and lacks those skills, making them foot the bill for college isn't going to suddenly help them smarten up. If anything, it could have the opposite effect. DH's brother has been in undergrad for 6 years and who knows when he will actually finish at this point. He just didn't have the proper skills and floundered for quite a while.
DD is just shy of 11 months. The day that we got her SS#, I opened a 529 account for her. We are currently putting in $200 a month, but once we are past the child care phase, we plan to up contributions by a lot. And I am asking for family to make contributions to her account for birthdays and holidays instead of buying tons of toys and such. My parents have been really supportive and are planning to start making monthly contributions into her 529 account too. My intent is that she will have her education fully funded, including graduate/professional school if she goes that way. Same with any other kids that we have. I don't think that having this gift will have a negative effect on her, but rather it will be immensely positive in the same way that it has been for me.