Thank you to all who continue to check in. Nigel, I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. It's astonishing me how prevalent this particular cancer has become and in younger and younger men, particularly. When the insurance agent was out earlier this month I said I expected he's has had a lot of this type of meeting (meaning claims due to cancer) and he said yes and this year had already had three for men with the same cancer / secondary cancer that DH had, all stage IV at diagnosis and all young. One was 39, one 46 and DH at 55.
ronandannette - the kids are actually both in grade 10. I had pulled them and homeschooled them in grade 5/6 but took them both back to grade three and started from there. Chronologically, he should be in 11 but is currently still in 10. I don't actually care when he graduates - having ADHD and an LD, he is somewhat socially/emotionally delayed so an extra year won't kill him, although this now puts him potentially 20 at graduation and that more than anything for him may be an issue. I just don't want to see him eventually drop it because he isn't engaged and has a different path in mind anyway. I've made it clear that as long as he lives with me and I support him he is required to graduate. He says he intends to - just plans to do what is needed to graduate and that's about it.
We are finalising preparations for the Celebration of Life on Saturday with a couple of things still to pick up but otherwise finished. I have no idea how many will still be coming since it's been almost six weeks since he passed (can't quite believe that) and I'm sure some people have forgotten. I'm sure we'll have food leftover, but I think some friends are coming back to the house after, so I'll just put it back out then.
We were supposed to have our family dinner for DS's birthday tonight but about two hours before he said he didn't want to go anymore. He said it would be weird without dad and he'd rather do it sometime later. I suggested we could combine it with mine in July and we could see how we feel then.
I picked up our wedding video yesterday. I had it copied in digital format to be sure I always have it since the original was VHS. I can't watch it yet, but at least I have it.
Double-hugs to your DS about the birthday. It's your second "first" (after Mother's Day) and please, please be very gentle with yourselves as you navigate through them. Grace and peace to you all as you honor Buddy next Saturday.
Let us know how it went when you’re feeling up to it.
