Nancyg56
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 17, 2005
I came here and asked for advice on how much of a lump sum I owed her. My husband thought zero-I wasn't sure (which is why I was asking for an opinion). This lump sum would be addition to whatever I was going to give her monthly. I think that was in the same paragraph. I have already said many, many, times that you have all convinced me that mom is deserving of more. You're beating a dead horse. I did not ask for any opinions on why I moved her in and why I think it would be best for all concerned why it's best that she move out. That's my concern and nobody else's. As far as talking to my mom about this-I found out 12 days ago that the move was a possibility. I will be talking to my mom this weekend-with my brother, sil and husband present. This move will not be taking place for at least 8 months-best case scenario. I have quite a bit of work to do to even put my house on the market-since this has not been a long plotted-plan.
I have never said what I think you owed her in terms of money. How would I know? I don't know what her investment was. I don't know what the terms were in regards to this lump sum investment was other than you all considered it to be a permanent arrangement. I have stated repeatedly that I would never have made this arrangement if it meant my mother had to give me money to make it happen. That still stands. All of it.
If you want me or anyone else to approve of the decisions you have made, the way your posts indicate they were made, and the way you have tried to color your mother in the worst possible light, you are barking up the wrong tree.