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in our family, it was the youngest (my son) who had the issue. He didn't want to sleep with his sister because she tosses and turns a lot. I didn't mind sleeping with her, it didn't bother me.
Thanks all for your replies. There are a lot of good suggestions here! Since I am the step-mom, I might be overly sensitive about "doing the right thing". I myself only had sisters and we all shared beds so I am trying to be more aware than maybe a bio-mom would be about a brother and sister in the same bed.
I wonder if my step-daughter might not want to sleep in the same bed with me. And I would prefer to sleep with DH since I'm just used to it. Certainly no funny business would be happening when there are kids in the room - haha. As for the kids, we have gone on family vacations where they have slept in the same bed when they were a few years younger and they dealt with it but I know they would prefer to have their own space. Since my step-daughter is a more grown-up girl (she is already about 5'4" and taller than me!) and my step-son is almost as tall as his dad at about 5'10", I think it would be a tight squeeze for them in the same bed even if they weren't the type to bicker and/or be silly.
The rollaway cot rental someone suggested (may have been a different thread) and the air mattress options seem like good ideas for us. The idea of staying at POR 5-person room with the murphy bed sounds like a good deal but when I look at the size of that bed, it seems like it would be a tight fit for a 12 year old who is about 5'4" inches now ... let alone in another 7 months. Note that both their dad and their mom are tall people.
For the vacation, I'd do a boys bed and girls bed. I get you are used to sleeping with hubby, but I think you could make an exception. It's your cheapest option, unless you want to bring an air mattress.
That of course depends on family to family. If the OP is concerned about it, which is a valid concern, then it would be best to speak to their step-daughter in regards to how they may prefer to sleep. Since cost is of a great concern as well it doesn't have to be an open-ended question to the step-daughter. Even just saying "If we only have 1 room what sleeping arrangement would be the most comfortable for you? Sleeping on an air mattress/cot? Sleeping with your brother or would you be opposed to sleeping in the same bed as me (though that's up to them if they want to mention that)?"I dunno. If I were the girl, I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable sharing a bed with a woman who isn't my mom. If this were a conventional nuclear family, I'd agree with you.
That of course depends on family to family. If the OP is concerned about it, which is a valid concern, then it would be best to speak to their step-daughter in regards to how they may prefer to sleep. Since cost is of a great concern as well it doesn't have to be an open-ended question to the step-daughter. Even just saying "If we only have 1 room what sleeping arrangement would be the most comfortable for you? Sleeping on an air mattress/cot? Sleeping with your brother or would you be opposed to sleeping in the same bed as me (though that's up to them if they want to mention that)?"
I feel you on the guy thing I can so just imagine how she might have felt when her dad is joking around like thatThis sounds like a great idea and much better way than my husband approached it. He just said to my step-daughter in a jokey way "hey princess, do you care if you have to sleep in the bed with your brother on vacation." (note that I didn't put a question mark because he didn't have any question-type inflection in his voice). I couldn't hear her response and I wasn't in the room to see her facial expression so I'm still unsure how she reacted ... likely she just thought her father was being silly once again. Men!
So he and I have been discussing cots and air mattresses. The more I think about it, the more I think two rooms would be amazing in this situation if we can swing the extra cost. We would have two bathrooms and two separate spaces for downtime. The 2018 rates can come out any time now so we can see if the cost of two rooms is doable!! My very vague guesses show that a MOD would cost about $900 more than a value for the same time so if I can wrap my head around that cost difference, maybe I can justify two rooms. I can't know that until I know the actual cost of rooms for that week. I sincerely wish those 2018 rates would be released!
Those family suites seem really pricey! I agree that it's a great idea but it seems to cost more than just getting two rooms ... I think? After all of this likely-useless research of this year's rates I'm forgetting which scenario costs what prices. I'm seriously making myself crazy and need a stiff drink.
Kids that age either two rooms or as we always did in our family mom and daughter in one bed and dad and son in the other!!