OP here. Ugh, what a few days it’s been. Where do I even start?,
Ok, first of all, I’ve had many, many conversations with him regarding all of the various moving parts, so to speak. The home equity loan, the CA trip, the secrecy about the money that he is redirecting (he set up his direct deposit for his salary, to no longer go fully into our joint account) into accounts that only he has access to.
I know that our household bills are being paid because I do have the login info for all of them. The portion of his salary that it still going into our joint account ,along with my entire disability check, is enough to cover all household expenses.
But what about the portion of his salary that’s going elsewhere? Why the need to do that?
Just to reiterate, I HAVE asked him these questions several times over. His answers always vary, from, ”this is the account that I had to open In order to get my investment money out of their account and into mine“. Again, I’ve asked him why he has to have it all separate and he tries to tell me that it has to be that way, that the banks need things set up like this.
Ok, onto the home equity loan. The current status is the home valuation. Either a drive-by, or they may want to come inside. I have not signed a thing! But just yesterday he told me that I WOULD HAVE TO BE AT THE CLOSING TO SIGN THE PAPER WORK. I told him that I’m not too sure about doing this. I watch many, many true crime shows where one spouse feels they’re backed into a corner, then they murder or attempt to murder the spouse. This happens all of the time.
I have no place to go to, even if I wanted to leave now. I’m disabled and depend on a wheelchair. I have no family or close friends who could help me move, if I ever felt threatened. So it’s a fine line that I’m walking right now….
i do not want a divorce. He knows this very well.
Ok, so ready for what I discovered yesterday? I looked at the internet history on his iPad which is synced with his cell phone. I’m going to post a couple of pages, because I swear I’d thinkthat this was all. Made up….
EDITED TO SAY: I DONT KNOW WHY, BUT IT WILL NOT ALLOW ME TO ADD PHOTOS THAT ARE ON MY COMPUTER. DO I NOT HAVE ENOUGH POSTS, UNDER THIS USERNAME?