Mackenzie Click-Mickelson
Chugging along the path of life
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- Oct 23, 2015
You're focused on what is the norm for you THERE but the poster gave what occurred in their experience. I see no difference really in things--you're basing off of your experience and they are basing off of their experience but I'm fairly certain each of you can understand that your experience may differ from others and on various threads I've learned about experiences from around the world that don't in many ways match mine.
I do see you've added the additional comment about cash bars=tacky after I've started quoting you..now that is something rarely done here nowadays at least in my experience. I did an open bar and prepaid for tips not because I thought it was tacky to do cash bars but that I didn't want my guests to feel like they needed to brings all sorts of cash with them.
We got a silk fabric piece from my husband's friend who was from Mongolia. We thought it was an odd gift, though not in a mean way at all, but we found out it's what they do there. We didn't think anything less of the person for giving us something we would have absolutely no usage for nor did we say it was an inappriopriate gift..because it was actually something very thoughtful. But your comments are of a different manner in which it's not that it's just odd but that it would be wrong of a guest to have gotten someone a gift like that because they were supposed to give the couple of more cost or more grandeur.
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To the two above comments...yeah see we're back to square one again. If a couple wants to have cake and ice cream at their darn wedding so be it. I've had some lackluster or downright icky cake by the way at weddings that you know cost a pretty penny. I would have loved to have had some good tasting cake and sure throw in some ice cream rather than focus on the appearance of having cake and ice cream.
My sister-in-law got married last year and had KFC take-out at her new grandmother-in-law's apartment clubhouse. Now that's not a norm at all and is vastly different than my wedding to her brother but still we didn't look down upon her. I believe they had homemade cupcakes too with ice cream.
I do see you've added the additional comment about cash bars=tacky after I've started quoting you..now that is something rarely done here nowadays at least in my experience. I did an open bar and prepaid for tips not because I thought it was tacky to do cash bars but that I didn't want my guests to feel like they needed to brings all sorts of cash with them.
I'm sorry, it sure seemed like that's the way it came off.It's not about the cost,
Well first it's inappropriate gift but now it's just odd? IDK maybe it seemed odd to them to receive a snack basket and then it became quite useful to them when they got to their honeymoon destination starved late at night.you could fill the basket with $200 worth of snacks, it would still be an odd gift
We got a silk fabric piece from my husband's friend who was from Mongolia. We thought it was an odd gift, though not in a mean way at all, but we found out it's what they do there. We didn't think anything less of the person for giving us something we would have absolutely no usage for nor did we say it was an inappriopriate gift..because it was actually something very thoughtful. But your comments are of a different manner in which it's not that it's just odd but that it would be wrong of a guest to have gotten someone a gift like that because they were supposed to give the couple of more cost or more grandeur.
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As for cake and ice cream, food is a huge component of celebrations
A 3 pm child's birthday party will have pizza, or some kind of meal, so something as special as a wedding will have more than ice cream and cake.
To the two above comments...yeah see we're back to square one again. If a couple wants to have cake and ice cream at their darn wedding so be it. I've had some lackluster or downright icky cake by the way at weddings that you know cost a pretty penny. I would have loved to have had some good tasting cake and sure throw in some ice cream rather than focus on the appearance of having cake and ice cream.
My sister-in-law got married last year and had KFC take-out at her new grandmother-in-law's apartment clubhouse. Now that's not a norm at all and is vastly different than my wedding to her brother but still we didn't look down upon her. I believe they had homemade cupcakes too with ice cream.