Happyinwonerland
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 1, 2014
Umm don't you think you should have discussed this before marrying?!?!? Maybe it is just me but we discussed kids, money, living arrangements - where & what. Why go just go blindly into marriage.
The thing is, people can change their minds. DH and I married young, at 21, both still in college. We both agreed we wanted kids "some day", I wanted a big family and he wanted a small family. By our late 20's, he wasn't sure if he still wanted kids, I was sure I still did. He decided he'd rather have kids than lose me, so we had DD. After she was born, He realized that he loves being a dad and I realized I only want 1.
Life is fluid, making a decision before you're married, when things are still a possibility and not a reality, is so different than actually living life. I can't imagine how miserable I'd be if I 100% stuck to every decision I made in my early 20's!