I'm a little confused with this episode. When Kate and Rebecca find that picture of Kate and Marc, Rebecca says she didn't realize anything was wrong because she was so busy, but it looks like she was right on top of it.
But Rebecca came to that realization very late in the game, when it had already gone too far.
Remember that she is thinking back on a distant situation when they found the picture, distant meaning time -decades, maybe not taking in the finer points. Just remembering that she wasn't checked in.
And not giving herself credit that she realized something was wrong at the eleventh hour.
Not faulting Rebecca, it is impossible for parents to see and take in everything.
I really loved this episode. The bedtime story that Kate was telling with Jack, it was so beautifully done. And she really just wanted Rebecca. Something is holding her back thinking that Rebecca doesn't love her or she isn't worthy of Rebecca's love. Oh, we all have our hang ups!
The scenes with Jack and his Katie girl were exquisitely beautiful. Made me miss my own father.
The actress playing Kate, wow. Once again casting makes this show.
I know I'm harping on this, but I just couldn't get past Mandy Moore's 35 year old face (made up looking maybe 45) uttering those words.
Great line if she looked older though.
It's weird for me when I read about Rebecca's aging. My mom has passed away but a lot of her friends looked/look incredibly youthful in their seventies and eighties. And naturally that way. They blow me away how good they look.
And Rebecca is supposed to be in her early to mid sixties, yes?
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And someone else called her memory issues early-onset dementia, and felt it was unbelievable. Where Rebecca is at is not early-onset (that can hit in thirties and forties and hit hard and fast), she is simply having initial symptoms of dementia in her sixties. My mother lived until 82. I could see subtle signs of her dementia before she retired.
I also thought the car scene with Kate and the BF was pretty ridiculous. It seemed really forced when he flew off the handle about her not wanting to quit the job. They couldn't have come up with a better reason for the argument that that??
No sarcasm meant but you are living a blessed life, in that regard. It is truly lovely to hear that you've never had anyone around you that acts like that.
I have had a few loved ones, that I might not even label as abusive, that could fly off the handle at a moment's notice. Rational behaviour need not apply.
I have been guilty of it myself at times, I am sorry to say.
Toby is struggling for sure, but they ended with him offering to keep the baby for the weekend. It seemed like they were moving in the right direction. I did find it interesting that she had called her neighbor from the retreat though...
Toby is really affecting me. And I have never been a fan. But I am sensitive to their dynamic. I have not been able to get that earlier show with Kate/Toby out of my head.
The hardest issues in relationships are when one part can't see how hard someone is struggling and attempting to communicate that. And getting blocked at every turn.
The writing with Toby, and his acting, has been exemplary.
As I said then, after that specific show, Kate has every reason to be shouting JUST DO!! at the top of her lungs.
But she has not seen/acknowledged how vulnerable her husband is being, trying to communicate his struggle - a struggle that he has shown he is not pleased with himself about. He has reached out in both subtle and straightforward ways.
Once again, I clearly see her frustration. Sometimes the matter at hand has no time for feelings (Ironic with Kate's character and Toby's patience)
But his blocks come from her turning too quickly to her extended family, when Toby is on the brink of reaching out. And having a vulnerable moment with his wife.
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As for how differently they are processing Jack's health - well it doesn't need to be right or wrong, just understood.
So hard all around.