We spanked our now 31 and 34 year old sons. Not often and no more than a swat or two on the behind and they are wonderful adults. There's a big difference between a swat and a beating and if some don't get that, then that's the problem. I think they each got swatted 5 or 6 times before they were 5 and it was ALWAYS safety related. I'd much rather pop them on the butt than have them run over by a car because they ran out in the street, or ate something poisonous because it hadn't been enforced enough. You can talk til you're blue in the face to a 3 year old, but they don't think the same way adults do, nor do they have the ability to reason the same way, no matter what some adults think.