mousefanmichelle
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- Jun 29, 2006
I liked your post but I want to make sure you know I didn't " like" your situation but I understand. My dad is still alive and I am hoping he will know who we are and that it's Christmas. So he doesn't seem like my dad anymore. My IL's " oh it's great you get to spend time with your family too" but really, it's not. There's nothing great about it. " oh, your dad will be so happy to see you!" Really? Prob not. My DH is a saint and understands. But there isn't anything we can do to change the situation. Do you have something, anything, really positive to focus on? That's what I'm trying to do.
I do have positive things to focus on - that is what is getting me through
I was busy last year taking care of my dads estate and a crazy sister so when Christmas came last year I could finally breathe after months of dealing with everything there is to deal with. The only thing I didn't get to deal with was the loss of my dad. I was too busy that I never got to miss him or grieve him. That is hitting me now. I understand my MIL has lost people. At 83 it would be a miracle if she hadn't but I just feel like its a little dig at me to just cope and get over it. I hope I am wrong as she isn't normally a mean person. Maybe I am hypersensitive this year...
I hope you have wonderful things to look forward to this holiday season and I am really sorry about your dad. That is heartbreaking and I totally understand how you feel. Prayers for you and for your dad (hugs)