ah, I don't think that women just want a free night out (most don't). We're just hoping to find a good connection like anyone else. There was a good article in the paper in the other day that kind of explains why women don't even offer anymore and it details how a lot of times guys stick us with the whole bill even if the women didn't order much. I honestly don't go for the wallet reach anymore. This may not be a popular opinion and call me old fashion but if a guy doesn't offer to pay on the first date, he's not getting a second. It usually signals to me that they're not that interested in a relationship. Although I always suggest coffee or tea for first date because its cheap and if the date sucks you can get out of there fast. I don't think going to dinner for a first date is a good idea. Mini golf is another good inexpensive option. There was an article in the post detailing how people are going on more first dates then ever, so all the more reason to go on a short cheap coffee date. A guy I was seeing for a bit in the spring, he was a total gentlemen. He paid for the first date and the second date I offered he refused and continued to on other dates. He finally let me pay when we had a picnic because I planned it. He always walked me to my car, always held the door for me, was incredibly polite, etc. I can't tell you how much this stuck out in my mind of how much he was a total gentlemen. It was so refreshing, which made it really suck when he ghosted (different guy than the other one I mentioned who ghosted me, yes it's happened to me more than my fair share). :-\