I understand this thread--everyone one at work thinks I'm crazy for going to Disney 2-3 a year as a single woman with no children. It's an easy, fun vacation, what can I say?
I'm not sure that someone's like or dislike of Disney/parks/etc. would affect my dating life, since I don't have one
People at my job got used to it, haha. Also, it's not scary to go to Disney alone. I would love to also do something like a solo backpacking trip, but I've yet to work up the courage.I understand this thread--everyone one at work thinks I'm crazy for going to Disney 2-3 a year as a single woman with no children. It's an easy, fun vacation, what can I say?
I'm not sure that someone's like or dislike of Disney/parks/etc. would affect my dating life, since I don't have one
You should do it. My most recent one was a six-day solo hiking trip out in Utah in May. It's not as challenging as it might seem. Saw lots of lots solo female hikers/backpackers while I was there - safety always comes up as a concern, but you can find well-traveled trails if isolation is an issue (particularly in the national parks) or find a tour that goes out. Lots of those too.
It doesn't matter gay or straight, finding someone to appreciate the things you enjoy should not be that difficult. However, we live in a country (I don't want to say world because I don't have experience dating other women from other countries) that is very judgemental in my opinion. We need to get passed this somehow.
ah, I don't think that women just want a free night out (most don't). We're just hoping to find a good connection like anyone else. There was a good article in the paper in the other day that kind of explains why women don't even offer anymore and it details how a lot of times guys stick us with the whole bill even if the women didn't order much. I honestly don't go for the wallet reach anymore. This may not be a popular opinion and call me old fashion but if a guy doesn't offer to pay on the first date, he's not getting a second. It usually signals to me that they're not that interested in a relationship. Although I always suggest coffee or tea for first date because its cheap and if the date sucks you can get out of there fast. I don't think going to dinner for a first date is a good idea. Mini golf is another good inexpensive option. There was an article in the post detailing how people are going on more first dates then ever, so all the more reason to go on a short cheap coffee date. A guy I was seeing for a bit in the spring, he was a total gentlemen. He paid for the first date and the second date I offered he refused and continued to on other dates. He finally let me pay when we had a picnic because I planned it. He always walked me to my car, always held the door for me, was incredibly polite, etc. I can't tell you how much this stuck out in my mind of how much he was a total gentlemen. It was so refreshing, which made it really suck when he ghosted (different guy than the other one I mentioned who ghosted me, yes it's happened to me more than my fair share). :-\
I never heard of a guy sticking a woman with the whole bill. That is ridiculous in any case. However, I will agree that a man should pay on the first date and it doesn't need to be a dinner or anything expensive. The last two women I went on first date with were to min-golf and a walk around a town, which I packed a few snacks to surprise her. The snacks were strawberries, nuts, dark chocolate and water. These were things she spoke about while we were getting to know each other prior to our first date. She thought it was thoughtful, so we went on a second date. Here I think she was a little more interested and we went to dinner. However, something must have changed her mind throughout the night because she was not interested after that. Again, that is fine, but here is the problem...if a woman realizes she's not feeling it anymore then she should have offered. I would have still payed, but it would have been the right thing to do. The interesting thing is women are always talking about equality but yet the men are held to a certain expectation too. But this is never made a big deal.
I couldn't agree more with you Brad. If that guy was all nice and doing the right thing, the ghosting puts right back down to a non-gentleman. Definitely shady and cowardly. I would never do that to a woman.
